R. Eric Thomas
Bestselling author R. Eric Thomas brings his signature wit and warmth to “Asking Eric,” an advice column tackling life’s quandaries. Drawing on his stint as Slate’s “Dear Prudence,” Thomas dishes out insightful, humorous guidance for navigating relationships, work, and everything in between.
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Asking Eric: Husband keeping wife in the dark about finances
Dear Eric: I’m a 62-year-old female and never once has my husband divulged to me what his financial situation is.

Asking Eric: Wife fears she’s abusing husband with Alzheimer’s
Dear Eric: My husband of almost 60 years has Alzheimer’s. At this point, he does not know who I am other than “some nice lady” who comes to see him....

Asking Eric: Partner’s familial estrangement is a deal breaker
Dear Eric: My partner and I are closing in on our third anniversary, and as we begin to talk seriously about the prospect of marriage, I've found myself a bit...

Asking Eric: I don’t like what my husband says to me after sex
Dear Eric: My husband and I have an active sex life. But, after sex, he says “Thank You.” I know he appreciates it, but I feel a bit cheap after...

Asking Eric: New mom feels guilty over very late thank you notes
Dear Eric: In spite of my best intentions, I have unfortunately been a poor gift receiver as of late. I had a baby last year, my first, and my family...

Asking Eric: My daughter wants to name her son after her dead brother. And I’m not ready for that.
Dear Eric: My daughter is having her fourth child. She wants to name him after her brother who died of suicide three years ago.

Asking Eric: Foster parent wants to be done with drama
Dear Eric: Twelve years ago, I was a foster parent for a 12-year-old. “Angel” was reunified with her father after a year and when that blew up, she came back...

Asking Eric: Friend’s treatment of ailing cat is hard to take
Dear Eric: Ordinarily, my friend is loving and affectionate to her middle-aged cat. She takes good care of him, with food, water, and attention. Today, she told me her cat...

Asking Eric: Sister’s ex doesn’t know she’s back in town
Dear Eric: My sister was engaged to a guy, “Peter.” I’ve known Peter for a long time. Not long before the wedding, she broke the engagement because she met someone...

Asking Eric: Father-in-law’s partner makes visits unbearable
Dear Eric: My father-in-law is in a relationship with a person that makes staying at his home during a visit an awful experience for me, my husband and our kids....