Q: Hi Scott,
I dated a guy casually for about five months, and recently
got a call from him to say he wanted to see someone
else.
I was busy when he called, but we talked long
enough for him to tell me what he wanted.
At the end
of the conversation, he said he wanted me to call him
because he still had things he had to say to me. The next
day we talked again, and he said he wanted to keep in
touch with me and go out sometime again.
My friends vary in what they think he’s doing.
Some say he wanted
me to beg him to say, some say he wants his cake and
to eat it too. I say he’s confused and doesn’t know
what he wants.
What’s your opinion?
And, why would a
guy waffle like this?
And, do you think I’m whacked
for saying that I would stay in touch with him?
And,
can things ever really be casual?
While I didn’t feel the “big bang” attraction to this
person in the beginning, he did grow on me over time,
and I really started to have more feelings for him.
So I felt a little sad when he said he wanted to see
someone else.
BTW, our definition of casual was, see each other
occasionally, not seriously, and date others if we
felt like it. I found out he apparently never did
date others.
– Perplexed
Scott: I don’t know why he told you he wanted to see someone
else, but I say take his word for it.
You’re probably
right he doesn’t know what he wants, but you don’t
want to be with a guy who doesn’t know what he wants
anyway, right?
I don’t know why he would waffle like
he did either, but you don’t want to be with a waffly
guy anyway, right?
Do you see my point? He’s the wrong guy for you.
Stay
in touch with him if you really want to, but if you’re
not cool with your definition of a casual
relationship, don’t waste any more time on him. Move
on and let someone else grow on you.