Q: Hi Scott,
This is the Sad Cinderella (you answered my letter January 11th of this year…to refresh your memory).
Today just happens to be the one-year anniversary since the ending of the relationship I wrote you about. Even though I am at a point were I’m not crying over the way things had turned out, I still have a soft spot in my heart for the Prince that broke my heart.
I’m hoping to find the “right” Prince someday and I am holding out for “true love” rather than “Mr. Right Now.”
Today I was reading your column like I always do, and had a question about what guys really do think or require.
As a lady, you are brought up to think you shouldn’t dive right into a sexual relationship with a guy (one you want to keep and have respect from, anyway…lol), but do guys really need that to open up to a relationship?
What are your “Great” ideas on that subject?
Thank you sooo very much for your encouraging words. I copied them to an e-mail and have looked at them for strength when feeling the need. Thanks again 🙂
– Heartbroken but Hopeful Cinderella…
Scott: Hey Cinderella! It’s so great to hear from you again.
I’d say you’ve definitely improved since the last time you wrote. You sound a lot better to me, anyway.
It just takes time, and even though the pain of a breakup anniversary can be rather acute, it’s also a survival milestone – you made it through that first year!
It only gets better from here, I promise.
The part of the column you were inquiring about is something that a male friend told the writer but I don’t necessarily agree with what he said.
Not all guys need sex to open up, but most do require some sort of ego stimulation.
In other words, they like attention, just like women. A compliment or two doesn’t hurt either.
But keep in mind that everyone is different. Some men just want the sex and some men want to get married.
Some people mistakenly fall in love with the idea of being in love, instead of with the person they think they’re in love with. The important thing is to take some time getting to know a person, then you’ll be in a better position to determine whether he’s really your true prince.
Keep us updated!