Q: Need your advice.
I have been married for seven months now. My wife worked
up until last May, but has been out of work since
then.
It has been a very difficult struggle for us
financially, then in December I lost my job.
Now I am working 11-14 hour days just trying to make ends meet.
But every time I approach the subject of her working any type of a job, she flies off into a rage and says she’s just not ready to go back to work.
Any suggestions? I’m at my sanity’s end.
I love her very much, but don’t know how much longer I can keep up
these hours.
Scott: You poor guy, please don’t over-complicate things for
yourself.
The answer to your problem is very simple: your wife needs to get off her lazy ass and get a job.
There’s no excuse for you to have to work so much, but you’re doing it because she’s doing nothing at all.
Tell her she needs to go find a job or you will move out and find your own apartment. Ultimatums suck, but so does working 11-14 hour days!
OK, I’m sure your wife has some redeeming qualities somewhere, but
contributing to the household certainly isn’t one of them, at least not so far.
Enough of the excuses. Whether she’s ready or not, be very clear with her that if she doesn’t get it together now, your seven-month marriage might not make
to eight.