Q: Dear Scott,
I went to Las Vegas last weekend for my best friend’s wedding. I was the maid of honor and the best man was a single, good-looking military guy.
He and I spent every day during our visit together. We hit it off, and before I knew it, after three days, he said he was in love with me.
The night I left, he proposed out of nowhere!
I said yes and I don’t know why. We had just met and everything happened so fast.
I don’t want to go through with it, but I want to date him and see if something can come of it.
I don’t know how to break off the wedding without breaking his heart. Can you give me some advice?
Sincerely,
– Summer
Scott: Summer, Summer, Summer – have I taught you nothing?
I don’t even know you, and I can still see you getting all caught up in the moment, fantasizing and talking about a future with a guy you clicked with over the weekend.
But come on. Marriage?
That’s such a huge step to take with someone you don’t even know, even if he is a hot military guy.
Then again, Las Vegas does seem to have that effect on people. Just look what happened to Britney Spears, not to mention countless others.
But if Britney jumped off a bridge would you follow her? Exactly.
So you already know this will be a mistake and you wrote to me for validation, thank God!
Well, here it is: Tell the cute military guy how much you like him and that if you’re really going to have a future together and spend the rest of your lives together, you want to do everything the right way and take time getting to know each other.
If he’s really a good guy, he’ll understand and respect your position. After all, he made the same hasty decision you did but now you’re both back home and can think sensibly.
Do I really need to say it? Okay: what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, as it should.