Q: Scott,
I was wondering, what’s your opinion on office romances?
I have befriended a guy that I work with, and we spend a considerable amount of time together outside of work, usually once during the week and always on the weekend. I have expressed my feelings to him, but we have both agreed that working so close together, we wouldn’t have the opportunity make a relationship worthwhile.
I just don’t know how much longer I can go with just being friends with someone that I have feelings for.
– Confused
Scott: An office romance can be a great and convenient way to connect with someone, but there can be a big a downside too.
Seriously.
For instance, if things were to end on a sour note, wouldn’t it be hard to show up to work every day, act normal and face that person? Ugh!
Also, keep in mind that you could very easily jeopardize your job, ruin relationships with coworkers and/or each other over something that never stood a chance anyway.
You wouldn’t want that, would you?
Right, I didn’t think so.
But what if you’re truly good for each other? That’s what you have to figure out but in the meantime, be extra cautious.
Just stay cool and stay friends, and keep your feelings for him on the downlow until you’re sure there’s really something there between you. When and if the time is right, go ahead and tell him.
Remember, though, if you do decide to go down that path, don’t let your personal performance get in the way of your work performance because no employer would be very happy with that.