Q: Dear, Scott,
I’m 21, and I have been seeing a guy for the last six months. He’s wonderful, and we are compatible in so many ways.
He asked me whether
I wanted to move in with him two months ago, but I got a new job and decided
to move out on my own (I was living with my parents while I went to
college).
I think that hurt his feelings a little, but at the time I was
adamant that I wanted to experience living on my own for awhile (pay my own
bills, buy my own groceries, etc).
Well, I’ve been living on my own for a
month now, and it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. Don’t get me wrong, I
didn’t expect it to be daisies and butterflies, but we spend most nights and
weekends together and I miss him when I’m not with him.
His lease is up in
August, and I’m contemplating asking him if he wants to move in with me. I
don’t want to seem like a hypocrite, though, since I said I wanted to live
on my own. Three months alone doesn’t seem like a very long time.
Part of
me is scared that I am becoming somewhat co-dependent and maybe I should
experience life on my own for a longer period of time.
What do you think?
SCOTT: Don’t place silly limits on yourself — it’s not necessary. If you want to
live with your boyfriend, live with your boyfriend.
You tried the solo thing,
and now you’re ready for the next step.
Will it work out? Mmmm, I dunno. I’d
be frickin’ rich if I knew the answer to that.
But how else will you know if
you don’t try?
Plus, his lease is coming up, which only makes it all the more
convenient.
Not everything in the world has to be overanalyzed. If you miss your
boyfriend and can’t stop thinking about his hot bod, then what better time
than now to shack up?
I’m all for it.