Q: Dear Scott,
I’ve been divorced now for a few months, was only married to the thief for 13 months, took me for over 100K. I know, move on.
Problem is, he had a few ex-wives who’d been out of the picture for a while, however still he would talk with them. They always had input on our relationship, and he seemed to take their word over mine.
I found this totally wrong and decided it was time to leave, did not need that crap. My spouse is supposed to support me, right!
Anyway, what I am dealing with now is I do not want anything to do with someone who has ties to their ex, unless they have children together and need to discuss a situation relating to the children. I had some jerk tell me I was damaged goods, because he still calls his ex to chat every few weeks.
Nix on that for me NEXT!
Felt I’d get your take on this, I’m sure you’ve heard this one before!
Regards,
– NEXT!
SCOTT: Some people can never sever ties completely and feel like they have to hang on to their ex’s in an attempt to collect “friendships,” while others would prefer to see their ex’s evicted from the planet.
Honestly, I’ve heard it ALL before, my friend, and my take on the matter is that it’s important to be with someone you see eye-to-eye WITH on issues such as this. I’ve got a sneaky suspicion this one’s a big deal to you, so if I were you, I’d steer clear of ANY guy with ties to ex-lovers (child exception noted).
Oh, also keep a healthy distance from any guy who takes money from you. NEXT!