Q: Hi Scott!
Since you have such great advice and are a sensitive individual, I was wondering if you could help me out with something.
My boyfriend of a year is a little overweight (he says he needs to lose 40 lbs). He is the same weight now as he was when I met him and it obviously does not bother me.
Lately, he has been talking more and more about re-joining the gym and needing to work out. He played football in college and so he isn’t opposed to working out — he just isn’t in the routine.
I think he is hot the way he is, but on the other hand I would love it if he was a little more healthy and maybe got rid of his belly. I also think that he would be happier with his self-image, and it doesn’t hurt to be a little healthier.
I am in OK shape and am active and would love it if he was too.
How can I encourage him to work out, but not make him feel like he isn’t good enough or that it is that important to me? Sometimes he calls himself “fat” and I don’t want him to because I certainly don’t think he is!
– Sporty Girl
SCOTT: For many of us, it’s hard to get motivated to start working out, but your boyfriend has an advantage because he’s got you to kick his butt into shape, Miss Sporty Girl.
I can’t think of a better way to motivate him than for you two to work out together. That’s right, take the initiative to find something active you both enjoy doing and start doing it on a schedule.
Remember to compliment him when you start seeing results. It’ll encourage him to keep going and push harder.
As I’m sure you know, the best way to stay interested in your workout is to mix up your routine. Find a few physical activities you can do together, and be each other’s personal trainer.
Not only will he lose the gut, it’ll be fun, bonding and healthy for the relationship. Score!