Q: I’m in love with my high school sweetheart. The problem is, I’m married to someone else.
We lost touch for eight years and during that time I married and have two children with someone else. I ran into my first and only true love last year, and no matter how we try and stop, we cannot stay away from each other.
I know I married the wrong person but how do I get out of it without hurting my family, to be with the one I truly love?
SCOTT: Well, this isn’t the first time this has happened. But I just love that part about how you “try and stop” but can’t stay away from each other. To me that means a physical relationship is well underway, right?
OK, so the way you want to proceed from here is to get yourself out of your marriage in a dignified way, and quick. Come clean with your wife and continue to take care of your kids.
Don’t string your family along and try to pretend like you’re the perfect family man while you’re out there screwing around with your high school sweetheart. You’ve already made a gigantic mistake by cheating on your wife. Don’t fool yourself into thinking as long as she doesn’t know, it won’t hurt her.
You’re human and, for lack of more descriptive words, you messed up.
Now’s the time to be a man, own up to your mistake and start living your life honestly. Today.
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