Q: Dear Great Scott – I stopped going to bars/clubs/bowling alleys a long time ago. (Aren’t those all actually the same thing with different clientele?) The guy I started dating told me he isn’t that type of guy either but that was a lie and it’s not the first thing he’s “hidden” something about himself.
I think I know what you’d say about this, and it’s probably not pretty, but do you think there are guys out there who are, um… “grown ups?”
SCOTT: Wait, so he’s a closet bar/club/bowling alley rat? Why on heaven’s little green marble would he not be honest about that? And how could he hide it? Among obvious other things, he could use work on the planning and development of his lying.
OK, so we’ve established that he’s good at telling you what you want to hear and a bad liar. “Thanks, boyfriend!” He sounds fantastic.
I think you’re right about my response: he seems like a real gutter ball (sorry for the pun) and if he hides little things, there’s usually more where that came from. So break out the old bowling ball and polish and get to know him better or be open meeting a real “grown up” who doesn’t lie about the little things.
And yes, they’re out there. Strike!