Editor’s note: This is a the transcript of the live chat that took place on DenverPost.com Tuesday, July 11 at 4 p.m.
lovely – audience) Hello everyone!
DenverPost moderator- audience) Hello and welcome to our chat! We have Lovely as our speaker today, sharing her experiences as a Suicide Girl. Please feel free to submit as many questions as you have. I’ll be presenting them to her. We’ll get started in two minutes …
DenverPost moderator- audience) Thanks for joining us Lovely! Are you ready for your first question?
lovely – audience) Yes I am!
gigi- audience) Hi Lovely. How long have you been a Suicide Girl? What are the best parts?
lovely – audience) Well lets see, I have been a member for about two years. Was accepted to be an SG just shortly after that.
justnow- audience) The HBO special on the SG tour is great. Is touring in your future?
lovely – audience) I love that I can be as free as I want with what I say and choose to show about myself
DenverPost moderator- audience) Oops jumped ahead. Can you answer the touring question?
lovely – audience) Sorry I was shoved off, can you send me the question
DenverPost moderator- audience) The HBO special on the SG tour was great. Is touring in your future?
lovely – audience) Absolutely! I would love the opportunity to tour with SG. Although I am not able to join this years. I definately plan on next years tour!
gigi- audience) How do you balance being a single mom with being a SG? Are you more of a homebody with a crazy Internet life, or are you actually out on the town a bunch living that lifestyle?
lovely – audience) I am a home body. I love being in my house and being with the ones I love. I do enjoy the internet waaaaay to much sometimes. But I do quit a bit of travel and modeling. It keeps me busy!
Participant- audience) I had sent a message yesterday about the responsibilty of you and your cohorts of contributing to porn addiction. I found out last month that my husband is addicted, and as wonderful as you feel about yourself, I feel the exact opposite! My self esteem is rock bottom, I cannot compete with the glossy sexy porn star. Do you take responsibility?
lovely – audience) I will not take responsibility. It is not my job to make others feel beautiful about themselves. It is within you and your marriage to complete that. I would say there is some miss communitcation as to your husband looking at porn and you not wanting him to. There are reasons behind it and it has nothing to do with me feeling good about the porn pictures I do.
TheCure22- audience) How do all the SG girls get their nicknames?
lovely – audience) You choose them. Whatever you think fits you is yours
Participant92- audience) Do you make any money being on SG?
lovely – audience) Yes I do
Participant82- audience) What did you think of the Post’s story that featured you?
lovely – audience) I think it covered allot of things and I am happy with what they had to say about SG and myself. Is it up to the people who read it to take whatever they get from it.
Participant82- audience) Is being Lovely a full-time job? If not, what else do you do and how many hours a week does Lovely take?
lovely – audience) Lovely in itself is a full time job, yet I have a full time office job and go to school along with being a single mom. My hands are full!
seth- audience) Do you ever get notes from folks that just creep you out? Does it worry you that people can find you and try to meet you in person?
lovely – audience) I have only gotten one semi nasty email. Most people are respectful. I do get worried but I take precausions.
DenverPost moderator- audience) Say a 16 year old wanted to pursue the type of career as you. What would be your words of wisdom?
lovely – audience) I would tell them to wait. Let a couple years go by. See if you feel the same. Most 16 year olds do not feel the same say at 20…
Participant90- audience) Do you think what you do is pornography? If not, why not? If not, then what IS it?
lovely – audience) I would not consider what I do porn. I think that what I do is erotic… Definately not porn. Ive always looked at porn as dirty. Unclassy. What I feel I do it beautiful and artsy. I am not just an object of sex I am a person with many differant aspects inside as well.
seth- audience) Do you know all of the other SGs in Colorado? Do you hang out?
lovely – audience) I know a couple. I have hung out with a few. we are all very very differant girls
gigi- audience) Have you ever been a stripper? What made you think this was a great opportunity?
lovely – audience) I would never be a stripper. Never want to be one. I will not sell myself or put body parts in dirty mens faces for a buck or two. I love the freedom I get with SG and I can express myself through blogs and pictures
gigi- audience) Is there a long process to becoming a Suicide Girl? Isn’t it a very selective process? Can you tell us about it?
lovely – audience) Its a bit long. It can take awhile to be accepted but what takes the most time is the sets. Getting them accpeted and Queued is a long process
zeus- audience) I read that you have a child. Is SG something you would want her to do when she is an adult?
lovely – audience) I want my daughter to be happy and respect her body. If she chose to do this I would support her. She would have to be of age. If she considers it beautiful then so do I
kelli- audience) Lovely, I’m a single mom too, and I think what you’re doing is fabulous! Good for you!
lovely – audience) Thanks hun I appreciate the support
Participant82- audience) What do you tend to blog about?
lovely – audience) My life, whats going on in the moment. New work I do, sad things fun things, things I need advice about. SG is not only a porn site but a community!
Participant- audience) I didn’t say you needed to make me feel beautiful. Like the herion dealer, aren’t you contributing to something insidious? Doesn’t that make you feel the slightest bit bad?
lovely – audience) Not at all. Im sorry that what your husband looks at make you feel less beautiful. You need the confidence in yourself to not feel that way.
Participant91- audience) When you encounter people who frown on what you do on SG, do you just brush it off, or is it affecting?
lovely – audience) I brush it off! I do what I want to do and what makes me happy.
lovely – audience) They’re judgement wont affect my life
DenverPost moderator- audience) Lovely, we have gone through 24 questions really quickly. We either need more now, or we can wrap this up early. Is there anything else you’d like to say?
lovely – audience) If anyone wants to get to know me or read about me or see my work then please feel free to sign up to SG on my myspace page at http://www.myspace.com/doublelovely and click on the SG banner
lovely – audience) I just want people to have an open mind.
DenverPost moderator- audience) Here’s one more …
Participant112- audience) Do you plan to do more than SG, in terms of erotica?
lovely- audience) I would love to venture in the fetish world…. We will see what comes of that!
Participant- audience) The porn industry is very narcissistic, very focused on what you want, including the people posing and the people looking. Sex should be about giving, don’t you agree?
lovely- audience) Giving? Sure! But I am a bit selfish and think its about recieving
DenverPost moderator- audience) Okay, thank so much to Lovely and to our audience for the quality questions. You will be able to read a transcript of this chat on DenverPost.com shortly.
lovely – audience) XOXO
