Hi Scott,
My boyfriend and I get along great, we have so much in common and love spending all our time together. We often spend the night at each other’s place but that’s all. Now, he’s pushing to have us move in together. It’s a big commitment to merge like this and we have yet to use the “L” word, “love.” So what’s an acceptable amount of time to move in together with someone?
Scott:
Let’s start here: six months is not enough! The “L-word” must absolutely precede domestic cohabitation, and by “L-word”, we don’t’ mean “lesbian”, (in which case moving in would precede a second date.)
Living together always sounds like a good idea during the honeymoon stage; why, it’s like a sleepover every night! Mmhmm. Unfortunately, there are things many people don’t consider like if one’s messy and the other’s a clean freak of the anal variety. Or if one’s a phone person and the other winds-up feeling jealous, neglected, needy. I’m not saying don’t do it, but once you do, its difficult turning back. It’s a HUGE STEP!
It’s too soon. You have to first know who you’re shacking up with or you could find yourself desperately clinging to the remnants of living alone.