Dear Amy: I am a freshman in high school, and I have a problem regarding Valentine’s Day.
I think that my girlfriend and I disagree on the subject of “love.” We have been together for only a month, and she has already asked me if I love her – twice. Amy, I am not prepared to tell her that I love her.
I believe that love implies that you want to spend the rest of your lives together and have a relationship that will last forever.
I am not prepared to commit to that. I believe this will become a problem on Valentine’s Day, because I think that she will tell me that she loves me, and I am not ready to say it back. It’s not that I want to break up (and I think that she may see it that way), but I just can’t “love” somebody this early in my life.
– Loveless
Dear Loveless: You are absolutely right about love. It is an incredibly intense emotion. Love can’t be faked, and it can’t be forced. The fact that your girlfriend is promoting this shows that she isn’t mature enough to understand what love is all about. In addition to being very fond of you, she sounds insecure.
Buy your girlfriend some flowers. Maybe you can give her one of those new cards that plays a song when you open it. If she asks you if you love her, tell her honestly, “I feel like we’re too young for love, but I like you a lot. Isn’t that OK?” If she wants to break up over this, then it is her loss.
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Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I recently broke up because I was cheating on her. I have apologized to her, to her parents and to her close friends. I am also seeing a psychologist and taking time to understand my actions.
My girlfriend told me that she does not want me to contact her for a month.
I want to respect her space and time, but I also want to contact her to talk and discuss our situation.
– Longing To Talk
Dear Longing: Buy a calendar.
After cheating on her and possibly further ticking her off by running around and apologizing to everyone in her life, you need to prove to your girlfriend that you are able to follow basic instructions.
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