Dear Amy: I have been involved in a relationship with my boyfriend for six years.
About eight months ago, I began seeing another man while continuing to be involved with my boyfriend.
At first I thought that seeing this other man was only going to be a one-time thing, but I was wrong. We have had an ongoing relationship ever since our first date, but there is one huge problem. He’s married. He’s much older than I am, and he has children.
I knew from the start that he was married, but I didn’t know that I would fall in love with this man. My relationship with my boyfriend has taken a huge turn for the worse. We barely even sleep in the same bed anymore because I have lost my love for him. All I can do is think about this other man when I’m with my boyfriend.
My married boyfriend and I spend every minute we can together, and my feelings for him keep getting stronger. We always have the most amazing time together.
Am I crazy to believe that things could ever work out between my married boyfriend and me?
– Confused
Dear Confused: Don’t you ever watch the Lifetime channel? If you did, you’d know that these things never work out. Never. If you don’t make some changes, before you know it Tori Spelling will be playing you in a sordid version of your life.
You’re cheating on your longtime, live-in boyfriend. You’re engaged in an adulterous relationship. The common denominator between these scenarios is you. Now what? Please get a handle on your behavior. You can start by being honest with your longtime guy. You should leave this relationship before you completely crush his self-esteem under your stiletto.
A counselor could help you figure out why you’re making some of your relationship choices. Then you can set out to make better, smarter and healthier choices.
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Dear Amy: I have a comment on what to call the in-laws.
My late husband’s mother was welcoming, but I could not bring myself to call her Mom.
In those days, one never called older people by their first names.
That sort of familiarity was unheard of.
I adopted the habit of most of my contemporaries and called my mother-in-law “Mother Smith” (my surname was also “Smith’).
My late husband called my mother “The Mom.” My current husband had a teasing relationship with my mother and called her “Goodwitch,” which always made both of them laugh.
– Anne
Dear Anne: I’m all for these clever nicknames – as long as everyone is really laughing.
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