I was talking to a friend the other day who was despairing that she couldn’t decorate her apartment. I asked her what she had that she really loved. It turns out there was a sofa her husband had refinished himself, a hutch they had found in an antiques store, a beautiful green marble tabletop in the attic at her mother’s and lots of family pictures. Within minutes we had sketched out a way to rearrange her whole apartment to feature these cherished things and build around them.
To make your home personal, start with something you love: a painting, a photograph, a rug, a shell, a pillow, a glass jar, a quilt, anything.
I’m a big believer in high-low. Expensive and cheap. It is worth spending some money on one nice piece that you can showcase and really cherish. Then you can augment that with flea market used furniture, and it looks as though you have eclectic taste.
In our living room, we have some beautiful things my husband inherited. There are also three large patchwork pillows I bought in a market in Iran nearly 40 years ago for 25 cents.
Interesting and unusual objects are key. Look at items you’ve brought back from trips. You can take a cheap Mexican pottery vase and put it under a glass case, and people will think it’s a pre-Columbian artifact. Frame a quilt and hang it on the wall, and it looks like art. Group together things that you have collected to make them look more interesting. Get a picture light and hang it over a painting you got at an auction, and it will look as though it’s something really important.
Get inexpensive basic fabrics for the main pieces of furniture in solid colors, and then spruce them up with silk-tasseled pillows or with patterned fabrics for a small skirted table.
Bring out family pictures. They are some of the most personal things you can have. Groups of pictures automatically make a home yours.
Books, book, books. We have thousands of books. We are drowning in books. We have books from our college days, books people have given us, books we’ve bought and books we will never have time to read. It doesn’t matter. They are the single easiest and most satisfying way to decorate a room. They fill it up with color and warmth and humanity in a way nothing else can. Even if you have to pile them on cinder blocks, books give you an instant home.
Color can make all the difference. You can change a room overnight just by putting a fresh shade on the walls. In the old days it was safe to paint everything white. Benjamin Moore Linen White is the perfect warm off-white, which I use mostly on woodwork, and I paint rooms rose or blue or green or yellow. I prefer softer colors, but if you’re a fire-engine-red person, go for it.
There are no rules. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. It’s your home. You can do anything you want. If you read magazines in which decorators give their rules, you’ll be schizophrenic by the end and too terrified to make a decorating decision. Curtains are in, curtains are out, rugs are in, rugs are out, color is in, neutrals are in. It’s ridiculous. Nothing is ever out if it pleases you. Decorating is not like fashion, where the trends change every six months.
