Dear Abby: I work for a small, family-owned business.
The owner has strong political views and insists on listening to a political talk show during the afternoon, with the volume turned up quite loud.
My boss assumes that his views are everyone else’s and talks to customers as if his opinion is gospel. I have watched them roll their eyes and try to get away. I have worked here for three years, and I can’t take it anymore. My co-workers say I can’t say anything because he owns the business, and he can do whatever he wants. I have looked for another job, but this is a small town and jobs are scarce.
I think it’s inappropriate to force one’s political views on anyone, especially employees and customers. What’s your take on this? — Fed Up in New York
Dear Fed Up: I agree with you. However, all too often, zealous members of both parties are unable to resist the temptation to spout off — especially during an election year. I don’t know what business your employer is in, but if anyone else in your town performs the same service without the political arm-twisting, it could cost him some customers.
Dear Abby: My ex-boyfriend has cerebral palsy. I have loved him for more than a year, regardless of his condition. He broke up with me because he didn’t think he could love someone if he didn’t love himself.
We are still good friends and care for each other. He often asks me what he can do to feel better. What can I do to help him feel better about himself? — Helping a Friend in California
Dear Helping: Offer him this advice: The surest way to start feeling better would be to stop focusing on his disability and concentrate instead on his abilities. I’m sure he possesses many unique qualities that make him special — and you can list them if you like. Counseling could help him tear down the barriers he is building around himself. Independent-living centers provide help for people with disabilities, and I’m sure one in your area could put him in touch with someone who is qualified to talk to him — including a peer.
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