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Dear J.T. & DALE: I am pretty sure my boss is sleeping with someone on my team. They go to lunch off-site every day. They also arrive and leave within five minutes of each other. He is married and she is 10 years younger. I’m totally annoyed by them, and am finding it difficult to do my work. Problem is, I’ve only been at this job six months. I’ve been told to stay at a company at least two years so that I don’t look like a job jumper, but I don’t think I can stand this much longer. – Camille

DALE: I’m confused, Camille. Why is this affair making it difficult to do your work? It seems to me the only way they’d get in the way of your work is if they were actually having the affair on your desk, which seems unlikely, given that you said you are “sure” they are sleeping together.

J.T.: Don’t pretend to be perplexed. You know what Camille means – a boss who is having a “special relationship” with one employee can affect an entire team.

DALE: It can, if you let it. Just because we live in a TMZ world, does that mean you have to become a gossip and amateur commentator on everyone else’s morality? No. You have a job, and you do it. I once was research director for a market research firm, and the owner, who was married, kept an apartment near the office for his afternoon dalliances. We’d sometimes have clients come in for afternoon meetings and he’d not show up, having gone on a lunch date and not returned. Did we debate whether or not we could “stand it much longer”? No. We planned morning meetings when we could, and we figured out how to make our afternoon presentations so persuasive that the clients would forget the owner wasn’t there.

J.T.: But that had to bother you. By the way, what happened to the company?

DALE: I left, and shortly thereafter the company went out of business, but neither was because of the owner’s trysts. Unbeknownst to me, there were some questionable practices in another division. A grand jury was involved. Long story.

J.T.: Perhaps the common theme here is that you don’t want to work for someone with questionable standards. And if that’s how you feel, Camille, do NOT buy into the “job hopping” myth. If you haven’t had multiple short-tenure jobs up until now, leaving this job after six months would not be an issue. However, it might be tricky to explain your leaving to prospective employers. So you might want to stick it out a bit longer and see what happens. In my experience, office romances crash and burn quickly. When the two of them get caught or break up, one probably will be leaving the company, and that might create more opportunity for you. Do your work, and watch the train wreck as it unfolds.

Dear J.T. & Dale: I know a recruiter at a company. He introduced me to a hiring manager at his firm, but I didn’t get the job. Now I see that a new job at the company is open. What is the polite way to ask him to refer me to that manager? – Clint

J.T.: I would suggest tactfully taking ownership of the process. Call the recruiter, and instead of asking for an introduction, just say, “I was wondering if you have any insight on how I might introduce myself to the hiring manager for the XYZ job?”

DALE: I agree that this is yet another case of “questions are the answer.” However, Clint, I’m not sure I’d start with J.T.’s question and try to leap over the recruiter; he might feel slighted. Instead, I’d call the recruiter and ask if he is handling this new position. If not, you can ask who is. If there’s no recruiter involved, then you can employ J.T.’s question. So it could take three questions. If all goes well, you won’t need all three, and the recruiter will make the introduction for you.

– Workplace consultant and career coach J.T. O’Donnell has coached, trained and mentored employees and managers on a wide variety of career-related subjects since 1994. Her book, “CAREEREALISM: The Smart Approach to A Satisfying Career” is available at JTODonnell.com. Management guru Dale Dauten has written six books and is an authority on innovation in the workplace. His latest book, “Great Employees Only: How Gifted Bossess Hire & Dehire Their Way to Success” is available at Dauten.com. copyright 2013 King Features.