R. Eric Thomas
Bestselling author R. Eric Thomas brings his signature wit and warmth to “Asking Eric,” an advice column tackling life’s quandaries. Drawing on his stint as Slate’s “Dear Prudence,” Thomas dishes out insightful, humorous guidance for navigating relationships, work, and everything in between.
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Asking Eric: Parents try to force reunion with estranged brother
"With my parents, things don't get through unless I take drastic measures."

Asking Eric: After depression, cluttered house seems impossible to manage
"How can I start making progress and get my space (and confidence) back without feeling completely defeated?"

Asking Eric: In-law’s body hair makes holidays a chore
"I’m assuming it would not be appropriate for me to make the request that he trim his nose hair before coming over."

Asking Eric: Friend only wants to complain about another friend
"I've been feeling sad and upset. I feel judged for setting a boundary."

Asking Eric: Aggressive neighbor claims seniors are harassing him
"It is not legal to water beyond the lawn and illegal to block passage on the sidewalk, but no one will stop him."

Asking Eric: After divorce, ex questions how to phrase holiday cards
"Any ideas on wording that is classy or funny to express this new family identity that doesn't skew weird or inappropriate?"

Asking Eric: Wife has racked up $16k in secret bills
"I am married to a liar, a sneak, someone with no conscience. What should I do?"

Asking Eric: 19 years and no proposal; what gives?
"I'm wondering if I should ask him next February, even though I feel he should ask me."

Asking Eric: Parent gives daughter’s ex free room and board plus a loan
"I don't know if he self-sabotages or doesn't follow through."

Asking Eric: Daughter’s clutter keeps getting her kicked out of apartments
"Every year the landlord won't renew their lease. Happens every year."