R. Eric Thomas
Bestselling author R. Eric Thomas brings his signature wit and warmth to “Asking Eric,” an advice column tackling life’s quandaries. Drawing on his stint as Slate’s “Dear Prudence,” Thomas dishes out insightful, humorous guidance for navigating relationships, work, and everything in between.
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Asking Eric: Self-described people-pleaser fears disappointing therapist
Dear Eric: I’m pretty sure I should seek therapy. As a longtime first responder with probable PTSD, plus recent marital issues and the recent deaths of a number of close...

Asking Eric: Neighbors worry about unlicensed contractors next door
If they hit a gas line, there could be consequences for many homes in the neighborhood.

Asking Eric: Serial monogamist gets lost in relationships with no time for friendship
I think his bad communication style mixed with his unhealthy relationship patterns are absolutely intertwined and really impossible to break.

Asking Eric: Son shuns parents’ guest at holiday dinner
I don’t like being put in a position of feeling like I have to choose between helping a friend and the big group.

Asking Eric: Newly married couple feuds over loans to gambling friend
Financially, we are struggling, but my husband still gives his friend free rides all over town and money to gamble and buy alcohol.

Asking Eric: Friends never initiate social plans
It verges on annoying and we’re tempted to constructively confront some of the couples (one or two of them) about this one-sidedness.

Asking Eric: Grandfather resents family time
Dear Eric: I’ve been with my husband 25 years, married the last seven. We have children from prior marriages, and I have six grandchildren.

Asking Eric: Friends are trying to keep adult daughter’s boyfriend out of the picture
Recently, her mom texted us and told us that we were not to allow her daughter to bring the boyfriend to our house for weekends.

Asking Eric: Reunited with an old friend, now she wants to tag along on every trip
At all costs I do not want to hurt her feelings, but I also really don't want to be around her except in very small doses.

Asking Eric: Husband is completely dependent on spouse to handle problems
I work full time just like my husband, and I have told him numerous times to be a man and start dealing with it, as I want a husband, not...