Q: Hi Scott,
I have been dating this person for several years and
we have a child together, and we also live
together. However, so many times I just wanted to pack
up and never look back because we were on the Rocky
Road….
Finally, things are straightened out and he
has been a good mate and father to our child.
The
only thing is, when I met him I was in the church and
still am. But now, living together is starting to
affect me because of my beliefs.
He did ask me to
marry him, and I said yes, but that s all that happened.
Even though he is acting right I just want to be in
God’s good grace (obedience, if you understand what I
mean).
Yes, I know we should have never lived together
since this is my belief, but I did not think we would
still be dating years later. Can you help me?
– God Bless the Child
Scott: Good for you that you worked out your problems with
your “husband,” but if you were really that religious
and worried about being in God s good grace, wouldn t
you have gotten married first, moved in together and
then have a child?
Don t get me wrong, because I m the
last person who ll pass judgment on you. But the way
you did everything was perhaps a bit out of order,
religiously speaking.
Remember that marriage isn t just a legal contract,
it s also a state of mind and a lifestyle. You already
live like you re married and act like you re married,
so I already consider you married and I m sure your
“husband” does too.
However, I do get your spiritual
point loud and clear, so for the sake of your peace of
mind and to get back in God s good grace, grab your
guy (he won t mind) and take a quick weekend trip to
Vegas to get your marriage certificate.
You ll finally
be able to put this issue to rest, and I m sure God
will approve too.