Q: I don’t know what’s happening to me – all of a sudden I’m consumed with the
fact that I’m old and not anywhere near being married. I’m not even seeing
anyone. I just picked up the phone and called my healthcare to see about
therapy!! Is this a good reason for needing counseling? I’m freaking out.
– Anonymous
A:
You poor dear, please stop freaking out about all of this for there’s no
need. But I must admit as I read your e-mail I was reminded that I once got a
calamitous e-mail just like yours, only in that email the writer concluded
with, “I’m 26”. I’m not even kidding. Can you believe that? Too old and not
married at 26! Unbelievable. So, assuming you are older than the senior
citizen age of 26, what really is your question? Should you seek therapy
because you’re not married and not seeing anyone? I don’t think so.
First, try this: determine what you want from a mate and what your personal
type is. And don’t be too specific or you’ll narrow it all down to no one.
Instead figure out what you really need from a relationship and what your
type is.
Then, get out there and be open to finding this person. Who would want to
meet someone who comes across as uptight and unapproachable? No one.
And finally, try to separate yourself from freaking out about all of this
any longer. No one will be interested in someone who appears to be on the
verge of a nervous breakdown.
If that’s the case, get back on the phone and get that therapy going.