Dear Amy: I have a friend I have known since we were 5. I am now 33. My friend is getting married this summer.
He was a guest at my wedding and at my son’s baptism, but we have not heard from him in several years although we live in the same city. He put a wedding announcement in the paper of our hometown but not in our local paper.
I have not received an invitation.
I don’t know whether I should crash the wedding or simply not go because I haven’t received an invitation. What do you think?
– Wondering
Dear Wondering: Crashing a wedding is never a good idea.
It seems obvious that this friendship is over. Unfortunately, knowing someone at age 5 is no guarantee that you will know him at age 35. Having someone as a guest at your own wedding is no guarantee that you will be a guest at his.
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Dear Amy: I was compelled to tell you how off-base you were in your reply to “Interested Nurse,” who wanted to figure out how to meet a doctor she was interested in.
I have been married to a doctor for 43 years, and the rule now is not to fraternize, in any way, with nursing staff. The amount of sexual harassment suits arising from “seemingly innocent” flirtations would astound you!
My advice for this nurse is to find someone outside of work. This is good advice no matter where you work.
– From Experience
Dear Experience: I made some calls to a large medical teaching hospital and research institution and have learned that, at least as far as I can tell, hospitals are somewhat like newsrooms. All of us are trained in sexual harassment issues, and many of us meet our spouses at the office.
There is a great, wide chasm between harmless flirtation and sexual harassment, and most of us in the work force are well-educated about the differences.
When people work long, irregular hours, such as at hospitals and newsrooms, there aren’t that many opportunities to meet and greet outside the office.
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Dear Amy: I’ve been in a relationship with “Michael” for the past three months, but then word got out that we were dating and he broke up with me. He told me he didn’t want to be in a relationship at that time.
We still talked and one weekend I hung out with him. He held me and gave me a kiss and … I don’t feel I need to go on.
Now I am very confused because he said he didn’t want to be in a relationship, but when he walked me to my car, he kissed me again.
I just don’t know what to think!
– Confused
Dear Confused: Your guy doesn’t want a relationship. He just wants to make out.
When companies want to test-market products, sometimes they take the product away in order to see if consumers miss the product.
If you removed yourself – lips and all – from this guy, you might be able to see, once and for all, what you really mean to him, if anything. That’s what I think you should do. Take your lips and go. If you’re not available to him, he won’t be able to confuse you.
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