Q: Good Morning Scott,
In February, this guy I was dating for a year and a half unexpectedly told me
that he started a relationship with a new woman, and that he never had any
intention on getting serious with me.
The problem is that his best bud is the husband of one of my best buds (did that make sense?). And my best bud always
fills me in on the scoop about my ex and his new squeeze, and how some
of our other friends are cheating on their girlfriends.
I have been in the
process of trying to get over this guy, but I feel that it is hard to do so
when there is someone always bringing him up to me and updating me about his
life. I also feel betrayed because if she knows how our other friends are
doing their girlfriends, then she definitely knew that the jerk I was dating
did not have good intentions.
I don’t think she needed to tell me
everything about him, but it would have been nice as a friend to give me a
warning sign or something.
I really enjoyed hanging out with this
particular person and group even after this guy and I stopped dating, but I
felt enough was enough and I ended the friendship. Did I overreact?
SCOTT: Not necessarily. If she was telling you everything about him, she was
probably telling him everything about you. It goes both ways, usually.
But if you regret cutting her off, call her up and tell her you needed a short
break, you’d like to hang out again but you’re disinterested in discussing
your ex’s personal life since he’s become insignificant to you.
If she can’t
resist talking about him anyway, dump her again and start fresh with some
new friends.