Q: Hello Scott,
At 16 years old, I fell in love with an American lad from Tennessee, and we spent a couple of months having a great time, although he didn’t know then the feelings I had for him we both knew we had a special connection.
He had to leave England and go back to America, and we talked a few times over the phone but suddenly lost contact. I then discovered he moved from his family home into a flat, and by the time my letter had reached that address he and his family all moved to Colorado.
It’s now six years later and I’m still here in England, wondering whatever happened to my first love!
Is he married, or still traveling around?! So many things I would love to ask him. I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years, we live together and are totally in love and happy.
I just wish I had the closure. I was desperate for all the years I was hoping and waiting for him to come back and live happy ever after! I was living in a dream for so many years I couldn’t see what I was missing in the real world.
Eventually, around three years ago, I woke up. I’m happy now but still I wonder… I would love to find him again but not for love but for the friendship we had.
I have no idea how to find this guy, any suggestions or help you could give me would be greatly appreciated, thanks for listening to my first love story,
– xx
SCOTT: It’s all so touching, the story of your first love, it really is.
I guess we all wonder what ever happened to someone from our past at one time or another and there’s nothing wrong with that. The difference though, between pondering fond memories of a past love and stalking a past love is the amount of time spent doing it.
I can’t think of a gentler way to tell you that you seem to have some extra free time on your hands, and I fear this valuable time is going to waste.
Really, what are all of these things you want to ask him about? Doesn’t the pining seem pointless?
It does to me. I’m not saying don’t contact him, but when one considers your motives, they do appear to be more romantic than anything else. I believe in fate and the forces of the unknown and everything in between, but none of that applies here.
In other words, the universe has not brought you two back together. Until it does, try finding your own closure and moving on like he did.