Q: Dear Scott,
You will never believe it!!! I got a job in D.C. and quickly made the move, keeping my home in the Denver area!
I drove through the blizzard last week. I was actually on 1-70 when it was closed, but had to continue on. It took 35 hours to get here, as compared to a usual 25 hours.
I am extremely happy here. I don’t care so much about the particular guy calling. It was never about him. It was about being in the East and a dynamic city.
Denver is great, but at this time in my life I need some adventure and a change of scenery.
The change also moved the guys who were serious about me to come forward and define their desires. That was unexpected.
A couple were very angry because I didn’t consult them. (Why would I?)
I did lose the ex-coworker. He is pouting over the move.
The biggest thing is the struggle I am having as a single mother who’s raised my child alone for the last 17 years. She just turned 19 years old and is a student at CU.
I felt I had to leave to let her see I would be OK without her, and she could go on with her own life. We were too bonded.
I felt she didn’t go away to college like her friends, because she didn’t want to leave me alone. I made the move. Within three days, she had a roommate and had taken over the master suite in my home!
I think under the circumstance I did the right thing. I am supporting two households, but I think as time moves forward she will be picking up more and more responsibility.
Do your readers, single parents, have any suggestions about this time in life?
I think I did the right thing, but I would like to hear what other single moms of only children do at this time. I want to make the transition as easy on possible for her.
I really am clear now for a new beginning with one of my partners in an exclusive way. I decided to wait another year before I settle down…I think I will go “wild” for a few! months!!
I promise not to self-actualize a la Monica Lewinski — LOL!!! George isn’t my type and Laura looks like she could take me down anyway!
I got a room with a woman on an 8000-acre horse ranch in VA. I have always liked English Riding.
She has free parking at the White House. I get to commute with her into town. My office is very close to the White House.
Thanks Scott…Your advice is always great!
– Lady Chatterly!
SCOTT: Wow, what a change, Lady! You just spontaneously picked up and weathered the storm to follow your dreams.
It’s like a made-for-TV movie but for real. Are you escaping?
Perhaps, but don’t worry about that right now. It seems the change of scenery is already doing you some good.
What else were you supposed to do when the court finally removed that heavy veil of financial support? You poor thing, you were feeling anxious and preoccupied with a life change (ahem, among other things) and had to do something! Sometimes leaving is the best (not to mention the most fun) thing to do.
We know you weren’t suffering from the empty nest syndrome since your daughter has now taken over the nest. Now it’s a party nest!
Oh yeah, your daughter. Reality check: don’t worry about her so much. She’ll survive without your all-giving over-protectiveness. She’s 19 and it’s time to stop nursing her.
It’s time for you now.
Enjoy the east coast, Lady!
Enjoy your riding, your fabulous view and give those kooky Bushes a warm holiday wish from me.
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