Q: Scott,
You recently responded to me in the post, “.” Since you are requesting posts, I have a few more questions about the same scenario.
We are now keeping her dog for her while her and their daughter go on vacation.
She has also spent the night twice when she drank too much before he became my fiancé. Once in his bed and once on the couch although he swears up and down nothing happened. She just refused to leave because the daughter was there and he didn’t want to get into a fight so he let her stay.
He seems to think I overreact when I get upset about this stuff.
Where are the boundaries in a co-parenting relationship? Please tell me.
– Still confused
SCOTT: There’s no need to be confused. The boundaries in your situation should lie with creating a reasonable distance between the ex and your household.
The only thing they have in common and should have in common anymore is their daughter. When the ex has too much to drink, she needs to crash at a friend’s house or take a cab.
Should she really be near her young daughter when she’s intoxicated? Wow, thanks, Mom!
You’re not overreacting. She needs to pick up her daughter when it’s been pre-arranged and your fiancé needs to be the one to facilitate the structured distance, not be such a pushover with her.