Q: Hi Scott, it’s ” No Sex in the City” again.
I read , which by the way, thanks for answering. But I don’t feel any better about the situation.
Months have passed since I wrote the first time and things haven’t really changed. I have tried to talk to him about it, but have not been successful. He is very good at avoiding circumstances he isn’t comfortable in.
You mentioned that some drugs may have side effects. I am not aware of any prescriptions that he is on.
But he does put on a spray called ” Lamisil” for a skin disorder that he has. He doesn’t get outbreaks very often, so when he does they are on his back and torso.
Do you know if that can cause sexual side effects?
By now I’m sure you can imagine that I am very frustrated. I have had thoughts about going elsewhere to get my “fix,” but have not acted on it because I am in love with him.
I’m not sure how much longer I will feel this though. I am beginning to get very touchy, and cranky with anything that he says or does.
He really likes to play around and get the moment heated (if you know what I mean) but doesn’t follow through. Should I just let go, and let him realize why things didn’t work?
He isn’t very fond of people giving up, and I don’t want to appear as a failure to him.
Sorry to be so ignorant in this area, but my female friends don’t have a clue as to what direction to point me in. Thanks again for help and advice.
SCOTT: Thanks for writing again. I love follow-ups!
Let’s take a step back and assess your relationship: your boyfriend is still angry about a past relationship, you’re angry at him for his non-performance and you feel more like a pasttime than a serious girlfriend to him.
On the positive side, you get a long well and that’s great, but sometimes it’s not enough.
You also need the ability to work through issues in a relationship and yours are big ones. We’re not talking about one person liking contemporary design and one liking French country. We’re talking about anger, distance, ego and sexual dysfunction; those are huge issues for a new relationship.
Lamisil doesn’t cause sexual side effects but something else is. I’m going to point you in the direction of couples counseling because for only being together for a short time, the signs of bigger problems later are all too clear.
Good luck and keep us informed.