Q: Dear Scott,
I need your oh-so-clever advice. I am a young married woman who loves her husband. I would never want to hurt him in anyway.
Recently, a guy has voiced his interest in me. He tells me how beautiful I am, says he always thinks about me and has given me his contact info — just in case I want to contact him.
He knows that I am married because I have told him that. I have never said that I want to contact him or hang out with him.
He does make me feel good about myself and I wouldn’t mind being friends with him.
Let me also say that this isn’t the first guy who has flirted with me since I’ve been married. I’m saying that there is something else about this guy that keeps my thoughts on the fence between morality and living on the edge.
I haven’t contacted him, and I don’t know if I should or not. And, would I feel this way if my husband were to give me the same kind of attention on a daily basis?
Most of the time I tell myself that I should just back away and avoid him all together. Then, I see him and he makes me feel good and I think, why not become friends?
I guess my biggest fear is thinking about where it might lead if we did get to know each other better… and could I handle that?
Any advice you could give me would be much appreciated.
– On the Fence
SCOTT: You like attention. I like attention. We all like attention. When you’re not getting attention at home, you’ll seek it – even if subconsciously – elsewhere.
Let’s not kid ourselves. You can’t have a friendship with Mr. Compliment because, well he’s interested in you and that changes everything.
It would be called an emotional affair if you got involved, which isn’t so much “living on the edge” as it is dishonest and deceitful. You don’t want to be dishonest and deceitful do you?
Good answer! Now, let’s steer you in the right direction:
Living on the edge is the excitement of getting back what’s been missing from your relationship with your husband, remembering what brought you two together in the first place and rekindling the passion, romance and attention that you need.
HOT!
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