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Q: I’m writing to share my 2 cents on your very recent column, “She’s tired of frogs — where are the princes?” Ms. Independent sounded just like some of the women I’ve met in Colorado.

I’m in my late 20’s and have a clean-cut, professional appearance. (I don’t like people calling themselves attractive/beautiful, so I don’t describe myself like that either.) I enjoy skiing, backpacking, and a sport that involves swimming, biking, and running. I am a health professional (just completed my training). My job is very rewarding in that I can make a difference in people’s lives by doing things that I love. In my field there is a lot of compassion for other people, even among the staff. My income reflects the amount of time and money that I have invested in my education to arrive at where I am in life today. I am satisfied with my physical health and fitness, my appearance, what I do, and who I am. I love doing things for fun – cooking, playing guitar, reading, road trips, etc.

Instead of saying I can’t meet women that are worth my while, I’ll just say that it’s hard to find women of substance and character in Colorado (I came from a different state). Independence is a different matter – I have met independent women who simply lacked the character that I am looking for.

Ms. Independent (and many women who wrote to your column) seemed to focus on material things about her, rather than who she really is. I am not turned away by a woman’s independence. In fact, I think that’s a very attractive trait. When I meet a woman, the first thing I want to know about her is who she is, not how successful, independent, accomplished, wealthy, attractive, intelligent, how many friends she has, how many relationships she’s been in, what kind of car she drives, how much money she inherited, etc. I don’t want to know what a woman thinks of herself. All those things will reveal themselves as we get to know each other more. I want good, deep conversations.

I want to know what she thinks of the world, current events, what she enjoys, how she interact with others, people who have had influences on her life, the things that are meaningful to her, her dreams and passion. I want to know HER, not her description tag.

I wouldn’t see it as a “game of love”. If it’s game, it’s not love, and vice versa. You should have told Ms. Independent that. Finally, I’d tell her (and her girlfriends) that it’s not about intimidation. Drop that mindset and start being human. Just be YOU!

– A New Doc

SCOTT: What’s up Doc? (I couldn’t resist).

Ok, here’s what I get from you: you’re a well-rounded guy somewhat open to the idea of meeting a well-rounded mate. Perfect! (Uh, maybe that’s not the best word to use). You talk about wanting to get to know someone who’s got something to say but not a self-obsessed superstar who can only talk about themselves and superficial things. And you wrote to this column? (Kidding again!)

I am curious why you used Ms. Independent for your example of how women are, though. She described herself as 26, single, 5’2” oh, and “independent”, of course. But what’s materialistic about that? You described yourself as late 20’s and went on about your appearance, job, income, schooling, etc.

You basically provided us with details that you complain women give you without even noticing you have something in common with Ms. Independent: you’ve both become disenchanted finding someone worthy of your attention. Well neither one of you lack substance so you two should hook up (I’m being totally serious about that one).

Either way, you need to evaluate where you’re meeting all these substance-less wastes of time because the spectrum of single available intelligent women is not as empty as you think.

Dear Readers:

Thanks!

– Scott