Q: This is a follow-up to my last letter to you regarding my husband’s wandering eye for other ladies.
You advised me to give him a taste of his own medicine by commenting about good looking men that I saw. I hesitated to do this because he often expresses jealousy over men who don’t actually have any interest in me, so I was worried he would perceive it as affirmation that I am interested in other men. After a month or so of thinking about it, I finally found the courage.
We started working out together at a military gym recently, and, since this gym is filled with young, attractive men, I thought this was the perfect forum to experiment. One day, I kept saying things about some of the men there, like “I sure would like to see that guy with his shirt off,” and “wow, did you see the pecs on that one?”
Well, he confronted me with my comments afterward. It upset him. After talking about it for a while, we both laughed about how ridiculous it was to be playing this game. I think he sees things from my perspective now, and the comments about other women have tapered. I am really happy about this, mostly because we have two pre-teen boys who model his behavior.
Thanks
SCOTT: Sure! Always a pleasure to help. It’s great to know that your husband’s setting a better example for those little protégés who are watching and learning how men should behave towards the opposite sex – and, really, most everything – from him.
Thanks for supporting my column and mostly for the good news. I love you for that! (Oh, but don’t tell your husband )