Q: Scott – I had the opportunity to go out with this wonderful lady for a couple of months. Unfortunately, things didn’t develop further than that. Part of it was due to our busy schedules so we could only go out sporadically, and I believe much of it also was due to me not stepping up to the plate and not letting her know my level of interest in her (past scars) and she got impatient with my inaction.
I know there isn’t much I can do now to change that, but I think if I we couldn’t at least be friends, I would lose out on having a positive influence as well as a great friendship for the both of us. I guess the problem is that standards these days would tell me to pack up and move on. I think it could be a good thing, and I’m not the jealous type, but not sure of what I should do, and how I should approach this.
Any thoughts?
SCOTT: Who me? Of course! The reason things didn’t go farther isn’t because she’s busy, but because of the heavy baggage (past scars) you’re lugging around. Can you see how your reluctance will work against you? It’s like you’ve got a dream in the palm of your hand and you want to squash it so no one else can.
You have a choice to make: go with what you interpret today’s standards to be and let her go, or pick up the phone, take a chance and try to get together with her. You have nothing to lose. Ok, yeah, love hurts sometimes but that’s just part of life. Nothing ventured, everything lost!
At least go for the friendship option and give it a chance to grow on its own and become whatever it becomes. You could end up with a great friend or who knows, maybe more. Take a chance and thank me later.