Q: So, I am married with a baby girl on the way. I have a great relationship with my wife, except her lack of sexual interest in me had gotten out of hand. One could say, “She’s preggo” and of course she shouldn’t be bothered. But on the other hand, since we moved in together, over two years ago, our love life has exceedingly gone south, now plunging into many, many months of a “no end in sight” drought.
When we were courting, we were a long-distance affair. Every weekend we saw each other and things were great, satisfaction guaranteed. Now, I get angry knowing that since we’ve been married, we’ve done ‘the deed’ three times and not even on our wedding night. Of course I voice my opinion about this matter, but it seemingly goes unnoticed.
I’m not really going to give her a lot of time in this. I’m not going to stay in a sexless marriage forever. Please give me some help. I don’t want to cheat but I’m not ugly and temptation is there!
– Hungry for Love
SCOTT: I often wonder why people who have troubled marriages choose to have children. The little blessing may be just that, but a baby’s not going to solve any problems in a relationship, especially where sex is concerned. If your wife’s desire for sex wasn’t high before, it’s certainly not going to increase with pregnancy! Where’s your head dude? Wait, don’t answer that.
Get your priorities in order. Start thinking about the baby you chose to bring into the world, stick with your wife through her pregnancy and don’t expect her sex drive to increase for quite a while. After the baby’s born try scheduling regular date nights to get your relationship back on track. Until then, when the occasion “arises,” get some porn.