Q: Hi Scott – I have been divorced for about a year and six months ago I began seeing a terrific woman. She is a single mom and had been dating a man for three years until I came along. She asked him to “give her some space” and has tried to let him down easy. Our relationship has grown much faster than either of us expected. It feels like we should be together permanently.
At the same time, the other man has committed himself to winning her back. While I understand his dilemma, it has created a triangle with two men loving the same woman. She doesn’t want to hurt him, yet she’s hurting me by not blowing him off entirely. This situation won’t last long, but I thought I would ask your advice. Suggestions?
SCOTT – Yeah, I suggest you back off. Right now you’re sharing a woman who’s successfully stringing two men along at the same time. I’m not saying in the end she won’t pick you, Stud, but that lame excuse that she’s trying to let the other guy down easy will quickly wear thin if it hasn’t already. She has a decision to make and the longer she procrastinates doing it, the more damage will be done.
Remove yourself from the triangle and tell her to let you know when she’s 100% available to continue what you started. Maybe it’ll nudge her to make a decision, maybe not but at least you won’t have to play this game anymore.