Q: Hello Scott. Okay, first off, I am very happily married for over a year and still going strong. My problem is this my ex-girlfriend, which whom I am still very good friends, likes to call occasionally and say hello, and see how I am doing. We dated and had been friends before I met my wife for, I would say, 2 1/2 years.
So, whenever she calls, my wife always seems to get upset which I understand completely. But, I always assure her that in no way am I attracted to her, it is purely a friendship. I know that is hard to believe, but it is true.
So how do I handle this? I love my wife. I don’t like seeing her pissed, but I still want to talk to my friend and she has several times offered to go out with my wife and I and have a drink or dinner or something.
So, what is your advice? If you think “drop the ex,” no problem – done. I just want an outside opinion. Thank you.
SCOTT: A wise man cuts ties with the ex, the exception being when there are kids in the picture. Sure, your ex is a great person and you’d enjoy having a lovely friendship with her, but at the expense of pissing your wife off, would it be worth it?
Seems to me your time would be better spent reminding your wife why you’re with her.