Q: Hey Scott. I have a bit of a problem, and I think it’s all me, but am not quite sure. I met a guy online and he’s currently serving in Iraq (due back in November of this year). We have never met face to face. After only a short time, we decided to start “dating” and he said those three big words to me, and of course I said them back.
I mean it when I say it, but am unsure of how he really feels.
I can’t seem to get him to open up on anything. He’s considerably younger than me, by 15 years, so I chalk it up to the age and the fact that most men, if any, rarely say what they feel.
I’m really trying not to sabotage this relationship due to past experiences, but am finding it difficult. I think about this man all day everyday. Is there ANY way to get him to tell me what he really feels or should I just live for the moment?
– In too deep
SCOTT The reality truck is here with an important delivery: you ARE in too deep! This is way too soon to get caught up in someone you don’t know and have never even met in person. Please!
Put on the brakes, quit acting desperate and get a grip on your codependence. If you think you’re sabotaging what could be, then you know you probably are. Don’t do that to yourself. Send him an e-mail and tell him you look forward to seeing him in November. Then, you’ll see him in November and see how it goes. If it doesn’t work out, it’s not the end of the world.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t be excited about him but for now he’s just a guy you met on the Internet and he should not consume every moment of your life. How about a new hobby?