Dear Amy: I have been involved in a relationship with my boyfriend for six years.
About eight months ago, I began seeing another man while continuing to be involved with my boyfriend. At first I thought that seeing this other man was only going to be a one-time thing, but we have had an ongoing relationship ever since we first met, but there is a problem: He is married.
I knew that he was married when I started things with him. My relationship with my boyfriend has taken a huge turn for the worse. We barely even sleep in the same bed anymore because I have lost my love and feelings for him.
My married boyfriend is much older than I am and has children. Am I crazy to believe that things could ever work out between us? – Confused
Dear Confused: Are you “crazy,” as in clinically insane? Probably not. Are you “crazy” as in self-deluded, irrational, selfish and silly beyond measure? Most definitely.
“The other man” will never leave his wife. And even if (in complete defiance of probability) he is not using you, he will still never leave his wife. You are being cruel to your boyfriend. You are helping your other boyfriend cheat on his wife and kids.
At the very least, you need to leave your boyfriend immediately – before you’ve destroyed him emotionally or given him an STD.
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Dear Amy: I have a 3-year-old and 2-year-old twins. My husband and I take them only to kid-friendly restaurants, and we are completely understanding of individuals who are bothered by misbehaving children, so we try our best to discipline our children
Recently we were dining with our children and some family members in the “Kid’s Zone” of a popular pizza eatery. While waiting for our meal, a couple of the kids became a bit loud, so they were taken to the play area until our pizza came. Then my hungry twins got into a short but loud altercation, which we quickly remedied.
A short time later, a man at the table next to us stood up and proclaimed, “Thanks for ruining our meal with all the screaming.”
Were we in the wrong? – Confused in Maryland
Dear Confused: Of course you can bring your kids into the “kid zone” of a child-friendly restaurant. And they might still ruin someone else’s meal.
You imply that just because you were in the children’s section this would somehow inoculate other diners from being disturbed.
Your fellow diner may have had his own 3-year-old with him (you don’t say). He has a right to sit in that area and expect a basic level of order while he and his family are trying to eat. You still have the burden for making sure that your children do their very best whenever they’re out in public – even if they’re in “kid-friendly” environments.
It seems that you did what you could. This man was rude to you. But you have to acknowledge that for the next few years your crew will be able to ruin someone else’s good time – even in the “kid zone.”
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