Dear Amy: I am in my late 20s and had to move home to my parents’ house because of a lack of money.
I have a part-time job and am working on starting my own business.
I’ve always had issues with men, especially with my father, but, recently, at home I have caught my father watching porn and at times “pleasuring” himself. This not only makes me uncomfortable but also angry that a married man has to do this when his wife is in bed in the next room. If I could move out I would, but for now I’m stuck. Any advice? — Uncomfortable and Angry
Dear Uncomfortable: It’s no wonder that you have problems with men; I agree this is creepy.
You should move out. You are in your late 20s. Your living situation with your parents is untenable. You are uncomfortable and angry, so you should leave.
If leaving means you will have to put your business on hold, get a full-time job, find roommates or rent a room in someone else’s home, then that’s what you should do.
If you choose to stay at home, then you should confront your father. If you suspect that your mother is at risk physically or otherwise, then you should talk to her.
But I would remind you (as I’m sure your father would) that his behavior in his own home is his business. If his behavior is interfering in his relationship with your mother, then they will have to confront it themselves.
Dear Amy: As an event professional who has been involved in many celebrity weddings, I can tell you how the wedding guest gift-bag tradition got started. Elaborate celebrity weddings cost millions of dollars. When magazines outlined what gifts brides gave at these events, pretty soon middle-income brides felt obligated to give gifts.
My colleagues and I agree the gift bags need to go. Brides should not feel guilty for not providing a gift bag. They are a superfluous item at any wedding. — Seen It All
Dear Seen it: Considering the duration of the average celebrity marriage, it’s entirely possible the gifts outlast the union.
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