Q: Dear Scott, I have a problem. When I was young, I moved from my hometown to Texas. I was browsing the Internet and I ran into an old female friend. Seeing her and talking to her makes me feel so good – better than anyone in Texas. It’s like closing the chapter of my life about missing my hometown.
I think I’m going to invite her to visit, but how do I determine if she would like to start a relationship with me? She says she would come visit, she gave me her phone number and everything but how do I determine if she feels the same? I don’t want to come on too strong and seem like some stalker or pervert.
SCOTT: What you want to do is not come off too strong. She already knows you’re interested and she gave you her number so she must have some level of interest in you, too. Spend some time on the phone with her and keep the conversation light and friendly. Invite her to visit when it feels right and if she doesn’t respond to your invitation right away, don’t press it. We don’t want to scare her off!
Discuss topics of common interest but nothing heavy or relationship-related. It’s way too soon for that. Kick it as just friends in the beginning and you’ll stand a better chance of more later on.