Hi:
I needed to ask someone this question, and there you were on the website!
Anyway, here goes: I have been seeing this guy off and on for about two years, and we love each other very much, but we both need our time.
I was wondering, he is younger than me and needs to live a bit, and I understand that. I was married for eight years before meeting him, and so I need to have fun too, and he understands that. Yet, out of all the men I have dated since my divorce I will only say yes to him if he asked me to marry him and have more kids.
My two boys love him and my youngest calls him dad and my oldest said one time he was his new dad.
Do I just keep bidding my time for the both of us to get the life thing figured out, or what?
I need advice. Please help.
– Confused?
SCOTT: Confused? Just a little.
It sounds like you’ve got a good thing going, so why spoil it now? Off and on for two years isn’t enough, so give it more time
instead of tying it up with a legally-binding contract.
Really, what’s the point? Stay in a relationship because you want to, and focus more on enjoying your time together.
When the right time is right, you can tie the knot. Until then, keep it nice and loose.