Q: Dear Scott,
I was talking to a friend last night about the recent passivity of my generation, mostly on the part of males. Can you write a column encouraging men to find their “hunter & gatherer side” and pursue women the way that some traditional women prefer?
The guy I’m dating now really surprised me with a call, but it was one of the most pleasant surprises, seeing as how most of the other guys I’ve met have waited until I’ve shown my interest in an obvious way.
Men don’t know how to be brave anymore and take a chance, but it’s attractive to women because it shows a certain level of
self-confidence. If the ladies are like me, they’ll say “I’ll give it a try.”
And I found out that my new guy has oodles of qualities I never picked up on the first time we met.
Guys, take a shot! It’s a gamble for both men and women, but women are getting tired of having to do all the work!
Thanks Scott. Keep writing the good advice.
SCOTT: I don’t know what type of men you’ve been dating, but I don’t agree that men in general aren’t brave in their pursuit of women. If anything, men probably fear their hunting and gathering side could be viewed as preying and ravaging.
In the modern world, this is commonly referred to as “stalking.”
I’m not saying that men shouldn’t pursue women, but since we’re speaking generally, men generally not only act on instincts but inferences as well.
So if you’re the type of woman who likes to be pursued, all you have to do it give an indication of that because, after all, men like women to have a certain level of self-confidence too.