Q: How do you pick up the pieces when you’ve been hurt so badly?
I have been dating a guy for the past three months, but found out that he had been seeing someone else for the last month.
I have solid proof that he was seeing her, because she e-mailed me off a website that we are both on. We ended up conversing over the phone because I wanted to get the truth and both sides of the story.
I just went through this with my now ex-husband a little over a year ago, and refused to play the fool on this one.
He told me he loved me and wanted a future with me. We were even planning a vacation this summer and moving in together. I can’t help but wonder, even though I know I shouldn’t what I did to deserve this.
I opened up to this guy and trusted him, and for me, that was the hardest thing I have done. Only to find out he had been telling someone else that he loved and wanted to be with her.
What goes on in somebody’s head to make him think hurting someone is OK? The last time I talked to him, he denied everything and swears he has done nothing wrong.
I am so heartbroken just trying to get some type of closure on this in any way I can.
– Heartbroken & Confused
SCOTT: Relationships take a lot longer than three months to solidify, and even longer before you should start making future plans. You first have to get to know your partner!
That doesn’t change the fact that you’re swimming in post-relationship agony, but it’s still impoprtant to keep in mind.
The good news is that you learned the truth about this less-than-a-gentleman now rather than later, saving yourself some time and even more pain.
As for your poor broken heart, that takes time too, and there’s no quick fix to get yourself through what you have to go through. It’ll heal in time, but for now, stay busy and surround yourself with people who support you. There’s nobody better than a friend to take your mind off of the loser who broke your heart.
You’ll be wiser about the guys you meet in the future and know to take things slowly because if you’re truly meant to be, you’ll have plenty of time for planning your lives together.