When America has questions about sex and sexuality, they often go to intrepid journalist/activist Dan Savage for answers. And when a 24-year-old heterosexual female called Savage on his podcast this week to , Savage’s advice delved into the weeds.
“I’ve never had an orgasm,” , “and I’ve had amazing sex with guys I’ve loved, I’ve used different vibrators, I’ve fingered myself … I feel like I’ve frickin done everything, and it still just hasn’t happened … I don’t know what to do. My most recent boyfriend was cool about it, but sometimes guys get hung up about the fact that they can’t get me off … I just want a fucking orgasm.”
After recommending a few titles from author Debby Herbenick — including “Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction” and “Read My Lips: A Complete Guide to the Vagina and Vulva” — Savage offered some poignant, compassionate and 420-friendly advice.
First he said: “Dump any guy who makes your orgasms about him.”
And then Savage talked about marijuana’s tension-relieving qualities: “So relax and enjoy and smoke some pot. Really, I’m not joking about the pot. Smoke a little pot. Sometimes tension — sex negativity, self consciousness — can really inhibit. And a little bit of pot — smoke some pot and masturbate or have some edibles and masturbate — it can really loosen you up, and that may be the missing link.
“That may be the piece that gets you there.”
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