Q: Scott, I have been dating a great girl for a few months. We see each other every weekend and sometimes during the week. I really like her a lot, and we are even going away for the weekend for the first time in a couple of weeks.
At the same time I met Girl A, I also met Girl B. Girl B does not live close to me, so seeing her has not been much of an option. We have had coffee together, and occasionally we will talk on the phone. She does not know about my romance with Girl A yet. It is getting to the point where I need to talk to her about it, though.
My question is this: Since things are fine with Girl A, and I don’t see us breaking up any time soon, how do I keep Girl B in my life as a friend? Anything can happen, and I would hate to think that I just let her go for no reason. Again, I don’t want to start any type of dating or romance just yet, because if I did I would just end it with A and be done. I just want to stay friends and not hurt anyone’s feelings.
What do you think?
-Lover not Fighter
SCOTT: I’m thinking we should get this in perspective and realize that this isn’t like a business situation where you’re an employer looking for grounds to dismiss Girl B. We’re talking about feelings and emotions and feelings here! The reason you should let Girl B go is because you’re already involved with Girl A (who we’ll presume is also in the dark about Girl B).
Sorry, stud, but if you want future relations with either Girl A or Girl B and want to avoid hurt feelings, you’re going to have to start being honest with both of them. Oh yeah – has it occurred to you that you could be either of these girls’ “Boy B?”